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Keeping Spike in the Closet: Transgression of the Constructed American Male -- Rochefort, 22:05:08 11/05/02 Tue

I cheered when I found out Spike and Xander are going to be rooming. If the writers stay on top of things this can be SO MUCH FUN.

I really think that with all its attempts at transgressing gender roles, BTVS can do much more than it has with male friendships. I mean I know it's often been mentioned how we can all just FEEL the potential when Xander and Spike get to a bit of talking that isn't just fighting.

It would be so fun if some of this actually gets played out to its full fruition. A non-sexual positive relationship between the two of them that nevertheless continues to play with the need for Xander to keep Spike's compact yet well muscled body in the closet stuff would just be a riot. The "who havn't you slept with line" earlier this season should just be the start. Male friendships have so much to overcome in American society and our blasted silly homophobia and our non-emotional non-relationship exploring, head-butt image of the ideal male. I think that ME can portray all those issues in Xander and Spike and do some really socially worthwhile transgressions.

[> be careful what you wish for? -- anom, 22:38:45 11/05/02 Tue

"I really think that with all its attempts at transgressing gender roles, BTVS can do much more than it has with male friendships."

Wasn't it in an early ep of season 6 that Xander made a Defcon reference, the women all looked "huh?" at him, & he said: "I so need male friends"? Somehow I don't think this was what he had in mind!

"Male friendships have so much to overcome in American society and our blasted silly homophobia and our non-emotional non-relationship exploring, head-butt image of the ideal male."

...as opposed to the head-up-the-butt type of image that usually results from attempts to live up to it.


Spike's new living arrangements: how precisely did this happen? (7.6 spoiler) -- HonorH (the mad bard), 23:04:14 11/05/02 Tue

I've got a theory! To wit:

X: (slowly and sincerely) Buffy, you know how sorry I am for the whole Angel thing. I was young and stupid and . . . my reasons don't matter. I was wrong, and it cost you. And you know I'd do anything for you, right? I mean, you're my best friend, and I love you. But this . . . Buffy, it's too much. I can't handle it.

B: Come on, Xander, it won't be forever.

X: Doesn't matter. Spike as my roommate? I don't think I could go a whole day without staking him!

B: He's got a soul now. He needs our help. That basement is killing him, and I think the best option is your place.

X: I'm sorry, Buffy. I don't think I can do it.

B: (sighs) Okay, I thought you might feel that way. It's all right; I know it was a lot to ask. I guess I'll just have to go with my original plan and ask Anya to put him up.

X: (choking) Anya?

B: Well, you know, I thought that with her just getting un-demoned and all, they could help each other. Sort of an ex-demon's club. Of course, it's going to be a bit awkward since they, you know, did the dirty, but I'm sure they'll be able to get over that . . .

X: You know, come to think of it, I could use a roommate. Think he'd pay half the expenses?

(Later with Spike, in the basement)

B: Spike. It's time for you to move on. Come with me. I've found a place for you to stay.

S: (muttering) Not leaving. This is my place.

B: Don't make me move you, Spike. This is not your home; it's eating your brain.

S: It *is* my home! I have callers. You, Crimmons the Rat, the little girl and her dog--

B: And I'm sure they'll all be able to find you at your new place. Well, not the rat, but I'll be there, and, you know, the little girl and the dog can always . . . sniff you out, and why don't you just come with me? You'll be lots better off.

S: Where are we going?

B: New place. Very nice. Hey, you can have a bed, and a shower, and even hot chocolate!

S: With little marshmallows?

B: Absolutely.

S: Well . . . okay. (Stands up) Where to, then?

B: You'll be staying with Xander.

S: Xander? Bugger that! (Sits back down)

B: (pulling him back up) Come on, Spike. It took me forever to clear this with him, and you'll be a lot better off where we can keep an eye on you and help you. Move, or I'll move you.

S: He'll give me that look--you know, like when your hair hurts and little crawly things are in your skull behind your eyes and your skin feels like it's shrinking and turning inside-out, and you can't do a thing to stop it!

B: I made him promise specifically not to give you that look. It's okay, everything's okay, just come with me.

S: Heh. They'll find me. The girl's quite mad, but her dog always speaks excellent sense.

B: Right. Of course. One foot in front of the other, just keep moving . . .

[> LOL! The thought about Anya crossed my mind also. -- Deb, 03:38:14 11/06/02 Wed

Perhaps that's why Buffy wants to keep Anya close too. Now she has everyone where she wants them.

[> [> Re: LOL! The thought about Anya crossed my mind also. -- Sometime Lurker, 10:34:42 11/06/02 Wed

Or more specifically, where she needs them. Buffy has faced really really big evil with this group before, she knows that when this new evil shows itself they will all be her best bet for dealing with it.


The jacket (Spoilers from "Him") -- Earl Allison, 03:03:20 11/06/02 Wed

Cute episode, although there were plot-holes large enough for Wilkins-Olvocon to slither through.

If the jacket made Willow, Anya, Buffy, and Dawn change so drastically in such a short period of time, why wasn't the school a madhouse long ago? The excuse in "Bewitched, Bothered, and Bewildered" was that Xander's love spell was new, and the obsessions set in quickly.

The jacket, if the story is to be believed, has lasted through three men, with NO visible and dramatic obsessions before Dawn and the others were affected. Why? Sure, it's likely the injured cheerleader was a victim of the coat's power over someone, but shouldn't there have been a LOT more of that going on? It just smacks of those awful monster movies where some creature has survived for countless years, and starts killing everyone in sight during the movie -- in other words, behaving in exactly the wrong way to avoid being detected.

Also, did RJ even know what the jacket did? I thought so at first, when he was trying to slip it on, and I thought he was trying to use it on Buffy. But his older brother clearly had no real idea, or he wouldn't have given it up.

If RJ DIDN'T know, he's almost sympathetic, because he wasn't using it to get girls.

Take it and run.

[> Re: The jacket (Spoilers from "Him") -- Deb, 04:02:06 11/06/02 Wed

Swoosh! Batman and Robin appear from nowhere and mug the unaware RJ of the enchanted jacket that he had just begun to wear and his girl friend steps back in horror because she can no longer touch his soul. He is just another hs jock and her love dies as the caped duo run like hell into the darkness of the night. Our superheros prove, once again, that one does not need technology, magic, a butler or cool cars to get the job done and done right. Batman proves to himself that he does not need a cape and Robin realizes that the campy outfit just doesn't do anything for him anymore. Batman returns to the bat closet to answer the email inside his head, and Robin burns the letter jacket knowing that when he was in high school it wasn't that the girls didn't like him. The girls just liked letter jackets better. Meanwhile, Catwoman makes off with the cash.

[> [> Does Spike hang upside-down in the bat- closet? -- Doug the Bloody, 10:49:52 11/06/02 Wed


[> [> Relevance? -- Earl Allison, 11:47:29 11/06/02 Wed

A cute post, but since it totally ignored any question I had, I'm torn between wondering if it was a simple hijack, or mocking me for having the "audacity" to ask anything about this.

I'm really hoping it's the former. Although you could have simply started another thread.

Take it and run.

[> [> [> It answers your question -- Deb, 16:21:25 11/06/02 Wed

The kid just started wearing the thing and its the beginning of the school year, therefore the jacket has not been worn in quite awhile. The jacket was enchanted, but who wears a letter jacket if they haven't lettered while in high school?

I'm sorry if you feel that I hijacked your thread. My answer was a legititmate form of criticism, and since the writers obviously were being quite campy with their own material, that is how I deconstructed the text. My methodology was metaphorical with cluster associations (i.e. Burke) with a campy, silly worldview, and I took it and ran with it.

I read the threads posted last night, and it is quite apparent that some people do not read other people's thread or there would not be so much redundancy. In addition, the posts were so serious. If one views this text from a serious point of view only then it does not make as much sense or seem funny or appear to have much depth. This was a masterful comedic text that just happened to make fun of itself.

I watch Buffy because it actually demands of me to engage my brain in order to participate. The show is one big allusion; one big metaphor; one big paradigm about life in western, postmodern society and if one views only towards the serious, high art side then they are missing out on one big funny, low art, joke that must be tragedy's shadow lest we all take ourselves too seriously. Meanings in text will always outnumber the actual size of the audience.

You throw out questions and ask people to take them and run with them. You never said that only serious posts are desired, totally redundant posts. If I post here anymore, I will be doubly sure that what I post is presented in such a manner.

My apologies.

[> [> [> [> No worries ... -- Earl Allison, 18:13:23 11/06/02 Wed

As long as your intent was pure (at least, not nasty), there is no need for apologies. I simply couldn't see any relevance in what you posted -- chalk it up to differing POVs.

Post as you see fit, please.

Take it and run.

[> Re: The jacket (Spoilers from "Him") -- Quentin Collins, 04:39:48 11/06/02 Wed

Good question. I was wondering the same thing. I guess there are some possible (if not plausible explanations). RJ may not have been wearing it for that long. The weather was likely too warm in Sunnydale to get much use out of it this autumn until recently. The female Scoobies probably acted so decisively because . . . they are the female Scoobies. They are certainly "out there" compared to the typical high school girl. Buffy is fairly aggressive in sexual matters and does tend to solve most problems by resorting to violence. Willow does tend to use a spell as a shortcut for every problem. Even Dawn's histrionics only seemed about a notch or two higher than usual. The fact that Willow and Anya have recently been heartbroken, Buffy seems destined to spend the rest of her life yearning for a good lover, and lonely Dawn hasn't had as much as a kiss since "All the Way" might make them more susceptible as well.

Wood's comments seemed to indicate that the high school girls had been doing a lot of things for R.J. of late. I got the impression that he did not know that the jacket had magical properties. I wouldn't feel too sorry for him, though. He did make the football team on his own (as the coaching staff is certainly male), and it looks like with the other quarterback down with an injury, he will again be the first string quarterback. From what his brother said, R.J. does seem to be more intelligent and well rounded than the typical Sunnydale student/athlete.

[> Re: The jacket (Spoilers from "Him") -- ponygirl, 12:29:52 11/06/02 Wed

I had the same quibble myself over the relative calmness of the school's female population in contrast to the Scoobs rapid freakout, and rather than the simplest explanation: it was convenient for the plot, I'd suggest that the Hellmouth energies, most likely getting ready for some major badness, are being directed, and that direction is towards the Scoobies. So my wild and groundless speculation is that the Hellmouth gave the jacket's powers a massive boost, but only with regards to the female Scoobies. With the flashback to BB&B, ME seems to be acknowledging how a love spell gone wild should work -- with every woman being effected in equal measure -- so I'm hoping this was indeed a deliberate move.

[> [> Ok, but -- Sophist, 12:55:20 11/06/02 Wed

what about all those years when Lance and the father wore the jacket? How come we never noticed it in S1-3?

I think we just have to overlook some plot holes, especially in the more comedic episodes.

[> [> [> Re: Ok, but -- ponygirl, 13:39:52 11/06/02 Wed

Well, my point was that the Hellmouth is juicing up for something (perhaps November sweeps!) and it gave RJ's jacket some extra mojo, but ONLY for the fem Scoobies. It's just spec, or possibly spackle over a hole.

[> [> [> Glamour, Charisma, beyond Predestination, Freedom, Dignity subject to Irony -- Cleanthes, 17:55:15 11/06/02 Wed

what about all those years when Lance and the father wore the jacket? How come we never noticed it in S1-3?

I think we just have to overlook some plot holes, especially in the more comedic episodes.


Plot received its defining from Aristotle, that old soft determinist. He made up all that stuff (I want to say ousia, but I'm restraining myself, because I don't want to wax metaphysically Eleatic) about plot holes and plot devices and unity of blah, blah.

"Plot" imagines that cause and effect control everything. Fooie. Phooie! Somethings are just senseless. That's free will! And that's why there's no dignity in love spells.

So, I'm in complete agreement with regard to comedy episodes and "plot holes" and, for that matter, in regard to dramatic episodes too, because unlike Cause, Irony can apply recursively to itself. (eg. what's the cause of cause? Don't even think about it - you'll not have enough aspirin. But feel free to be as ironic about irony as you like. I betcha can even beat me!)

Meanwhile, R.J.'s ancestors had the good sense to use the jacket judiciously.

And Anya, Buffy, Dawn & Willow have too damn much glamour and charisma and other uncaused effects that the scientific method doesn't know squat about. So, naturally, they get bitten more assiduously than most by the glamourous, charismatic Epinician magic.

[> [> [> Re: Ok, but -- Isabel, 20:08:13 11/06/02 Wed

Xander did mention that Lance was a few years older than they were. So he could have graduated at the end of the gang's Sophomore year and the girls could have been so far down the social strata that they'd never have gotten anywhere near enough to Lance to fall under his mojo. This can also apply to Cordelia since I can imagine that while it looked like she ruled the high school, she may have only ruled their class. Can you imagine the reigning Senior B*tches bowing to a sophomore upstart? No way!

[> Re: The jacket (Spoilers from "Him") -- fresne, 13:00:14 11/06/02 Wed

Since I spent the morning documenting some fascinating statistics, I have a theory.

A theory of wild, epic, grandiose proportions.

The coat of the variable affects.

It’s an allergy thing. Or rather, the Scoobies have a higher sensitivity to the magic than the average Hellmouth living residents.

Buffy – Slayer
Willow – Magic is a part of her
Dawn – Key
Anya – cast spells, then demon, then magic shop owner, then demon, now Amilee.

Most of the women who come into contact with the wearer of the jacket (I feel a LOTR connection somehow) may just get fluttery crushes. Preen for his attention. Accidentally break legs. Do his homework. Questionable, but no meltdown. The longer the exposure, perhaps the worse it gets.

However, for those women who’ve been exposed to just a bit too much of the magic or perhaps are magic by nature, meltdown of epic proportions.

The alley catfight is a bit of a problem, what with the not fitting and all, but hey for all we know the girl is on the magic pipe or part quarkaldh fa’eohoier demon.

Anyway, that’s my theory and I may very well stick to it.

[> Re: The jacket (Spoilers from "Him") -- Shiraz, 13:38:38 11/06/02 Wed

While I don't know if CJ knew precisely the power of his jacket, but, in my opinion he was definately using its power to manipulate girls to his advantage.

For one, it certainly looked like he was using the cheerleaders to cement his place on the football team despite his poor game performance.

Secondly, when he was brought in to the office, Mr. Wood told him to "stop taking advantage of those girls and do your own homework for a change", implying that this had been going on for some time. That had to be intentional on RJ's part.

Finally, it looked to me like he was goading Buffy to do something about principle Wood. He must have mentioned how badly Mr. Wood was riding him five times in as many minutes - while Buffy was coming on to him! (Talk about misplaced priorities! :)

As to why the jacket didn't seem to have as extreme an effect when his brother was wearing it, I think its a combination of two factors:

1. RJ looked to be a bit smarter than his brother (who said he was in the chess club, model UN etc. before the jacket) and might have figured out how to more effectively use his mysterious powers.

and
2. How do we know that the jacket wasn't having a similar power back in the bad old days? After all, back in Snyder's reign of terror smart girls were expected to do the Jock's homework and mysterious accidents among Sunndale students were so common as to be unremarkable.

Just my take on things.

-Shiraz

[> Ghostbusters and a "twinkie defense" -- Steve, 14:50:19 11/06/02 Wed

The same problem of "mojo intensification" was explicity raised in Ghostbusters[1], when the crew wondered why they were getting busy all of sudden - (remember, Egon worked out that if the normal amount of psychic energy was the equivalent of a regular twinkie, the amount of psyhic energy then in NYC was equivalent to a twinkie the size of the Chrysler building, or somesuch) - Ray worried that it might be because the dead were rising as described in the Book of Revelations, i.e. an approaching Apocalypse.

In the same way, a jacket that for years worked at close range or only on a few people at a time, could have been given a huge power boost by the perturbed Hellmouth. This would explain why the cheerleading captain was also so affected as to attack Dawn in the Alley, and why the effect was so rapid. I agree that the Scoobie women would probably be even more susceptible to Hellmouth mojo after all their years wading knee deep in its magical pollution.

Also don't forget, they took pains to point out that there was very little overlap between the jacket's previous outing at Sunnydale High and the founding of the Scoobies.

[1] Can anyone remember the episode (or even the series!) where either Giles or Wes makes a reference to "Tobin's Sprit Guide", one of the HP Lovecraft inspired book titles in the Ghostbusters movie?


Farce, Spoof, Silly or Something else. the “Him” Justification -- neaux, 04:23:48 11/06/02 Wed

Farce, Spoof, Silly or Something else. the “Him” Justification


Farce. A light dramatic work in which highly improbable plot situations, exaggerated characters, and often slapstick elements are used for humorous effect. Sort of.. but not really.

Spoof: A gentle satirical imitation; a light parody. Sort of yes, maybe no.


Silly: Lacking seriousness or responsibleness;Yes it was silly.

Him. The objective case of he.
1. Used as the direct object of a verb: They saw him at the meeting.
2. Used as the indirect object of a verb: They offered him a ride.
3. Used as the object of a preposition: This telephone call is for him.

The last one was a joke of course.. and that was what “Him” really classifies as one big joke. But it goes further than that really. Lemme put tonight’s episode into the perspective of the general television series. Every series that has produced over 100 episodes has done the “obligatory rehash episode.” This is the episode that is commonly presented in the form of a montage of flashbacks to previous episodes. Usually in sitcom form, the group of characters sit around a table and reminisce over previous episode antics. This concept has been spoofed perfectly by the Simpsons but I can tell that the folks at ME wanted to put their own spin on it. The tried to create an entirely new episode using elements of all old episodes.

If you cant tell that “Him” is really going this route, they put it in your face when Xander has his flashback to “Bewitched, Bothered, and Bewildered” when of course he is thinking back at the Kitchen Table. The point I tried to make in chat last night is that every scene in the episode was a “flashback” or reference to previous episodes.

While I wont attempt to break down every scene and tell what episode it came from.. this is where you guys come in. If you wish to.. please use this thread to do so and hopefully if you look at the episode from this perspective you may enjoy the episode more.

[> Please read above post.. spoilers for Him -- neaux, 04:25:22 11/06/02 Wed


[> Re: Farce, Spoof, Silly or Something else. the “Him” Justification -- JM, 05:29:56 11/06/02 Wed

neaux, if you get a chance, I would love to hear an elaboration. I'm going to go watch it again with just that mindset. I remember seeing SP,ST much differently after reading sk's friend's essay on POV.

[> [> Re: Farce, Spoof, Silly or Something else. the “Him” Justification -- JM, 05:52:45 11/06/02 Wed

My bad, I see that there was a lot of metanarration stuff lower down on the board. Will go to work and then come back and watch.

[> Tillow -- Tillow, 07:26:27 11/06/02 Wed

There's the pizza uniform — practically the same one Xander wears in Doomed.

The rocket launcher from Innocence.

Willow calls on the Goddess Hecatae.. who Amy calls on in Bewitched and Gingerbread.

The Cheerleading maddness from The Witch.

Posessed dancing at the Bronze a la When She Was Bad.

And he's wearing THE COAT.. as per Intervention.

I haven't skimmed the board. And these are just a few off the top of my head to get the thread going. But you're absolutely right. And I think this is one of the funniest eps ever!! Loved the Charlie's Angels montage in the middle.

[> Bits, pieces, questions. "Him" spoilers. -- Darby, 07:47:27 11/06/02 Wed

Well, there's the classic Xander-finds-Buffy-straddling-someone shot, even though it was the Buffybot before. Can't have too many of those!

Friends consoling friends on the whatever-they-are parapet thingees outside the high school.

Is BtVS the only show that drops the viewers into the end of a fight, wraps it up and then explains what's going on?

The smoochies scene certainly was reminiscent of several Buffy-Angel no-self-control moments from way back when.

Buffy still drives the same way. And the same car, appaarently.

Xander "taking in" Spike, quite reluctantly.

Anya really interacting with the team again, including some abrasion with Willow.

Off this topic, exactly what does Him mean - it seems an odd choice for a title. I can see that it can imply an object with no particular identity, but is there more significance than that? Is there a reference here - other than an obscure Marvel Comics character - that I'm ignorant of?

And further off-topic, how much of the "in love with the trappings" plot was aimed at certain fans out here in the world? Were we being tweaked, too? There certainly was some element to that in addressing Dawn's "hotness." ...Yes, ME is saying, we understand it, but we know this girl and it's wrong, wrong, wrong.

- Darby, who didn't think much of this piece of fluff until I started reading the board, but is now looking for implications in the new hairstyles!

[> Inanimate Objects in “Him” and the Gestalt Theory of Advertising -- neaux, 08:00:05 11/06/02 Wed

Inanimate Objects in “Him” and the Gestalt Theory of Advertising

Gestalt follows the theory of “the part reflecting the whole”. Its commonly used in advertising rather than showing the actual product in question to show only part of the object. The idea is that the product is already recognizable and therefore showing a section of it still gets the point across of what is being promoted.

As can be argued is the case of “Him” where inanimate objects do the job of representing entire past episodes of Buffy. Yes “Him” is a fun episode, and heck I’m sure it will be used in party games and minutely analyzed in the “chatty” rooms and websites of all the cool references or shout outs in this one show. But the question to ask is why did the cast do this? Did they really do this for fun for the viewers to “catch” these references or did they use this as a tool to advertise their show? As in “this is what you are missing out on.. buy our past episodes on DVD or watch FX for old eps?”

its something to think about.

and while you do that here a list of objects and places to create your own game.
Here are some starters, some of which have already been mentioned in this forum.

The Angel figurine:

The Jacket:

The cheerleading outfit

The Rocket Launcher:

The Robbery Mask:

The Upstairs Bed:

Not only inanimate objects but places:

The Bronze:

The Bronze alley:

The Bleachers:

The Stairway of the school:

The Classroom:

[> [> Re: More than that. -- DEN, 08:29:22 11/06/02 Wed

Another reason to look beneath "Him's" surface is the pattern of escalation in the Scoobies' responses. Dawn begins with a crush explainable in "natural" terms. Then she escalates to violence that causes injury. Buffy in turn raises the stakes to an overt sexual encounter, inappropriate in almost any conceivable context. From that the script takes its women to, respectively, dark magic, murder, robbery, and suicide. All but the last are played somewhat for laughs--but all are "real." (A bit OT: there's a really good W/T fanfic in which a Willowspell goes wonky and she winds up with a penis for 24 hours--kind of an inversion of that Madonna song, "Do You Know What It Feels Like?")In any case, there's more here--I'm still working on what it is.

[> [> They did it for November Sweeps, so yes it is advertising. -- Deb, 09:09:47 11/06/02 Wed


[> Re: Farce, Spoof, Silly or Something else. Disagree -- DEN, 08:02:52 11/06/02 Wed

Far from being just a collage of flashbacks, "Him" stands, in conception at least, with the best of the "high school" eps of s1-3. Its focus is the letter jacket as a magical object--and who among us has not had that experience one way or another?! The jacket is, moreover, truly magic in that its powers are independent of the possessor. That is what makes the ep different essentially from BBB and the similar "spell-based" eps of yore. Note Willow's frustration when she can't find a cognate spell anywhere.A good part of the fun is RJ's virtually affectless behavior throughout--as though somehow all these good things came to him because, like Figaro's Count Almaviva, "he took the trouble to be born"--again a classic BtVS "take" on a universal high school type.(We KNOW the actor playing the role is not THAT bad!)

The catch, of course, is why the Scooby women are so susceptible. On the most obvious level, the jacket cannot have that extreme effect universally, or it would fail in its "object" of enhancing the wearer's life by making him too conspicuous (cf.BBB et. al). That in turn puts three Scoobies beyond the jacket's "useful range," for what seem obvious reasons of age and sexual orientation.

There are some fine explanations below. I might suggest that perhaps the Scoobies have been exposed to magic so much, they are vulnerable, in the way of some people who have often been stung by insects. And of course shadowkat and others make a great case for the plot line as a framework for deeper character developmental issues. No quarrel there--I'm only trying to make a case for the story itself.

[> [> Not a disagreement.. good points -- neaux, 08:30:57 11/06/02 Wed

I totally believe it is MORE than just a collage of flashbacks, but for some people to catch the full humor of the episode its good to look at it at a basic level. And as a "best of high school eps" still supports my theory.

dont really see a disagreement here. See my other post on the Gestalt theory for some more breakdown.

[> [> [> Re: Not a disagreement.. good points -- DEn, 08:35:09 11/06/02 Wed

Thanks--neither this nor my other post were meant as flames.But my initial reaction to the ep was along Rob's lines, and today I'm seeing it as more "PROFOUND!"

[> [> [> [> Cool!! =D -- neaux, 08:40:07 11/06/02 Wed


[> I did what you suggested...but there's no arguing about taste. -- Caroline, 11:27:35 11/06/02 Wed

I watched it again and was still so distracted by the weird sound and visual editing and the silly inconsistencies in the plot (and usually I have no problem with those) that I really think this is just an average episode. When they made a reference to a past show - Witch, Band Candy, BBB, SB, WSWB, Innocence, etc - I got it. I've seen the DVDs and FX reruns so many times it's hard not to get it. Lots of funny lines and situations but ultimately not satifying. Got the point about the parallel between Spike and RJ, the meaning of the jacket, how the differing responses of each of the 4 women to their love for RJ said about them etc. The idea was a good one but it was not well executed. It was wasn't good enough especially following on from the excellence of Selfless.


The joke is on us -- Cactus Watcher, 04:48:39 11/06/02 Wed

My primary internet service is down so this waill be shorter than it deserves.

You loved silent Buffy. You loved Buffy the musical. Now we have Buffy the classic theatric farce. It's too bad the episode wasn't a hair funnier on first viewing, because on second viewing as JBone said earlier, it's a scream. You have to smell something fishy when Rob hates a Buffy!

Highlights - Dawn the drama queen. She goes through so many soap opera poses, you'd think they were going out of style.
Xander figures out what's wrong almost before the episode starts.
The big fight starts the main part of the show instead of ending it.
The other fight is a cat fight.
Buffy, as usual, starts out trying to 'counsel' her way through the problem, fails and then goes out and tries to kill something.
Willow doesn't care what sex R.J. is, but decides to turn him into a woman because that will prove her love to him?
Anya expresses her love of him by expressing her love of money.

[> SPOLIERS for HIM above! sorry! -- CW, 04:51:55 11/06/02 Wed


[> Re: didya notice... -- JBone, 07:26:01 11/06/02 Wed

This probably means nothing, but was last night the first time since Band Candy that we see Buffy drive? Just a thought while I have a minute.

[> Re: The joke is on us, continued (spoilers for Him) -- CW, 09:25:21 11/06/02 Wed

I really think this episode was about us fans taking the show too seriously, our over analysis of everything, our hanging on every possible sexual relationship, even our concern about Willow's sexual orientation. I know part of the reason it took me two times viewing to start enjoying the jokes was that I kept expecting it to get serious the first time I watched.

More fuel for the flashback theories below.
Dawn's 'slut dance' is a parody of Buffy dance in When She Was Bad, right down to the grusome music playing and bright lights instead of the sexy stuff and dim lights in WSWB.

How many times could Spike's words "Buffy, I'll go. This can't work." fit into last year our two? Who would have thought it could be about moving in with that other basement escapee?

[> [> That explains it! -- HumanTales, 13:41:40 11/06/02 Wed

I don't like farce. I enjoy most Buffy episodes (even the "bad" ones), but I spent a good part of this one with the TV on mute or in the other room. Now, I feel better.

[> [> Scarily enough, I've seen pretty much everything in "Him" in a fanfic at one time or another... -- Juliet, 18:17:24 11/06/02 Wed


[> [> Re: The joke is on us, continued (spoilers for Him) -- Slain, 19:08:48 11/06/02 Wed

There's definitely a very strong fan-referencing element in this episode - the coat, Willow's up and down sexuality is (is she straight, is she bi, oh, she's gay after all! phew!), Dawn's caricature of herself.


Oh! One more argument for my thesis in thread 10 things. (Spoilage "Him") -- Deb, 04:56:47 11/06/02 Wed

Dawn: "Nobody ever expects the Spanish Inquistion!" This alludes to Monty Python of course, but in this case it was an allusion to the film "Sliding Doors." To make a long story short, it is a verbal "password" where if the other person understands the meaning (within this context) they have found their soul mate. The fact that the dude didn't know what Dawn was talking about (her execution was lacking admittedly) told the audience that early on the guy was an enchantment, and not the "Soul Mate" kinda love.

Check out the movie if you haven't seen it.

[> And one more thing. Really. (Spoilage "Him") -- Deb, 06:05:17 11/06/02 Wed

"Sliding Doors" is a film about a young woman's two "possible" lives hinging (or sliding in this case) upon fate. The two storylines evolve from whether or not she catches the subway. In one version, she catches it. In the other she misses it. It is also thematic regarding how we perceive our lives; that what is apparant could simply be window dressing as an "ends", and the real story, though not as pretty and full of conflict, is the "means" to a better "ends."

[> [> Sliding Doors and Cordy in "Birthday" -- Rahael, 06:19:08 11/06/02 Wed

Now you've reminded me why the plot of "Birthday" struck a cord! Two different paths in life - but at the end, a similar conclusion, though one was more torturous than the other..........

[> and also on Principal Wood -- ponygirl, 06:34:45 11/06/02 Wed

The Inquisition line was also another vaguely Knightish association with Wood. We had the bastinada line in Lessons, now he's said to be holding Inquisitions. It's probably just a throwaway line, but I've said it before and I'll say it again -- I don't trust that guy! He sure looked good in this episode though...

[> [> He is much too civil to be a real principal -- Deb, 08:33:45 11/06/02 Wed

So there probably is a great deal to what you say. Probably has a chip in his head that will activate his pure souless, hysterical evil when the planets are aligned just so. He'll be stopping all students in the hallways and checking them for passes, and when they don't have passes, he will send them to the chip factory to mass produce a generation of uneducated, illiterate zombies.......or not. Sorry, I'm in a good mood today. The Northwest returned our sun!

[> [> [> Re: He is much too civil to be a real principal -- ponygirl, 08:54:08 11/06/02 Wed

I know! And he's far too well-dressed for a principal, with the earrings, and the shirts, and the shirtsleeves rolled up revealing the arms... sorry drifting, heard some Summer Place music for a moment. See? Don't trust him!

[> [> [> [> Alright. Let's keep our eyes on him. He's just too good to be real. -- Deb, 08:56:44 11/06/02 Wed



If [XXX] wrote Angel (humour, not spoilers) -- KdS, 06:05:34 11/06/02 Wed

M John Harrison - Cordy's visions would leave her totally unable to communicate except in mystic metaphors a la Dru. The entire guest cast would die in every episode, and each episode would end with the AI crew arguing whether they'd done what they were supposed to. Every episode would climax with Angel killing Holland in an entirely different manner and situation, as in South Park.

Michael Moorcock - Every episode would start with Angel having a nightmare about a black sword that wanted to make him eat Buffy and Cordy. Cordy, Skip, Wes and Lilah would be secretly plotting to destroy Wolfram & Hart and then knock off the PTB as well. Everybody would be portal hopping at the drop of a hat. Lorne would play electric blues guitar instead of lounge singing. Other than that, identical.

Terry Goodkind - Every episode would end with Cordy locking herself and Angel in a bedroom and shooting him full of MDMA for some seriously twisted comshukking.

Anybody else got ideas?

[> Re: If [XXX] wrote Angel (humour, not spoilers) -- pr10n, 07:09:23 11/06/02 Wed

JRR Tolkien -- We'd need four more characters, for starters. And more poetry, about ancient vamps and slayers and the nobility of their wars. Gunn would keep track of the heads he lops with that ax of his. Fred would accidently embibe the waters of a mystical tree and grow to the... what's that? She already is the size of Bullroarer Took? Wesley = Gandalf, Angel = Aragorn, Cordelia = Legolas, and sorry, but I think Connor is Boromir. Bring on some Glory minions for hobbit fodder!


Changing Rooms: Questions on who's living where, and why (spoilers S7) -- yez, 07:22:42 11/06/02 Wed

I was thinking about how there seems to be a lot of moving boxes in these S7 eps. Maybe somebody has already done some symbolic analysis of it. I'm still just trying to get the facts straight before trying to make sense of it.

In Lessons, we see that Spike has moved into the Sunnydale High basement. "Moved into" might be wrong -- I guess he's just living there. I think people have pointed out the connections with the id, etc.

Selfless opens at the Summers House with the gang amid boxes, presumably helping Willow settle back in. So am I right in thinking that over the summer Buffy packed up Willow's stuff and switched rooms with her? Something gave me the impression that Buffy had taken over her Mom's room. Can anyone confirm this? If this is true, I thought it was a little odd that Buffy would want to move into a room where a good friend has recently been killed. On the other hand, if she did it to spare Willow the pain of having her live in a room where her lover was killed, that's very touching. I was always uncomfortable with the idea that Willow and Tara had moved into Joyce's room -- the master bedroom -- after Buffy's death, though I can understand the desire to preserve Buffy's room as is, especially since they were planning on bringing her back. Anyway, there's the obvious connection with Buffy now being serious about taking on the "mom" role -- the caretaker, the person in charge, etc.

Now Him opens with Spike being moved into Xander's apt., and we also see Buffy rescuing Anya amid boxes, presumably packing boxes. I didn't notice those boxes in Selfless when Willow storms in on Anya and Halfrek, but maybe I missed them. If they weren't there, then are we supposed to assume that Anya was planning on leaving Sunnydale before Buffy pulled her back "into the [Scoobie] fold"? So, what, Anya was going to go off in search for her identity -- to get away from a group of people that she felt she was just adapting to and not able to be herself with? And Buffy brings her back in? Hopefully, she will still have emotional room to figure herself out without the roar of Buffy's personality and mission.

And Spike -- are we supposed to just forget the fact that Clem was supposedly living in Spike's bachelor crypt to hold it for him for the sake of pairing up Xander and Spike again? Are we supposed to assume that either Clem screwed up and lost the space or is now refusing to give it back to Spike? And that Spike is too messed up right now to take it back? I found it odd that this was never referenced -- it's kind of sloppy. Or did I just miss it?

And Spike and Xander -- this is a circle back to Hush when Giles pawns Spike off on Xander and they are uneasy roommates for the first time. So is this a step back for Xander from "grown up" (working guy with live-in girlfriend)?

So, does anyone have any answers or thoughts on this?

yez

[> Re: Changing Rooms: Questions on who's living where, and why (spoilers S7) -- Vickie, 07:31:22 11/06/02 Wed

Maybe the Scoobies just think "people with souls don't live in crypts"?

[> [> Re: Changing Rooms: Questions on who's living where, and why (spoilers S7) -- Sablehart, 07:44:35 11/06/02 Wed

Or perhaps they want to keep an eye on Spike for a while, now that he's slightly nuts.

[> [> I'm with you on this one -- Deb, 08:53:48 11/06/02 Wed

The crypt is just not an option anymore for Spike, though I must say I miss Clem.

Is Xander taking a step backward? No. He's actually taking a few steps forward in my book.

As for boxes. There have always been a lot of boxes because everyone keeps moving around like regular college students, etc. Do they have some kind of symbolic significance? Pandora's box? Beginning over?

What I want to know is where Spike's wardrobe is. It's not like he ever travels with luggage. Leaving wet towels on the bathroom floor in comforting. I was concerned that they would turn him into sometype of compulsive neat freak. I can see it now: "The Odd Couple"

[> [> [> Re: I'm with you on this one -- Pilgrim, 09:28:38 11/06/02 Wed

I thought last year that Spike was awfully neat, especially for a rebellious, eternal-adolescent, id-type vamp. His bed was always made, no clothes strewn around the floor, candles neatly placed, no books piled around (we see him reading at least once, so there must be books somewhere), no cig butts overflowing ashtrays, no empty liquor bottles by the door. Except when he and Buffy were in the throws of passion, when the orderliness was messed--but his crypt was always neat again next time we see it. Wet towels on the bathroom floor sounds more like Xander to me.

[> [> [> [> Xander was projecting his evil upon Spike. Agree. -- Deb, 10:09:29 11/06/02 Wed


[> [> [> [> I'm not -- Sometime Lurker, 10:31:28 11/06/02 Wed

It is Xander's house. Spike can't do the entirely mean or evil thing anymore on account of the raging guilt, but he sure as hell can drop a few wet towels on the floor and do that impish Spike-smirk while he watches Xander get fustrated and pick them up.

[> [> [> [> [> Re: I'm not -- Sarand, 12:03:00 11/06/02 Wed

And I would love to see that scene. (And I mean Xander picking up wet towels while Spike, fully dressed, smirks, not Spike dropping the wet towels).

[> [> [> [> [> [> Disagree -- alcibiades, 12:17:31 11/06/02 Wed

Except that in this episode, Spike's personality was totally deconstructed to the point where he is an empty shell taking order from Xander, and keeping in eye contact approval with him, for just about every move he makes.

It is completely out of character the way this episode presents Spike now for him to be doing the annoying and smirking routine. He's way too deconstructed and vulnerable. He can't even bare for the angels to see him.

[> [> [> [> [> [> [> Re: Disagree -- Sarand, 15:35:48 11/06/02 Wed

Oh, I wasn't saying that he would have been smirking now. I agree that it would be completely out of character for how he was portrayed in the episode. I was just expressing a wish that he could get some of that attitude back in the future.

[> [> [> [> [> [> [> Re: Disagree -- JM, 16:15:03 11/06/02 Wed

He probably did it out of abscent mindedness. I doubt he's really focused on the external. But Xander probably thought he was being passive aggressive, because that was how he acted last time they were roomies.

[> [> [> [> [> [> Well, I DO want to see the one where he drops the towels -- luna, 17:37:57 11/06/02 Wed


[> [> [> [> [> [> [> Such an honest person to admit to "sweaty naughty" thoughts...:):):):) -- Rufus, 21:17:13 11/06/02 Wed


[> [> Re: Changing Rooms: Questions on who's living where, and why (spoilers S7) -- JBone, 10:03:28 11/06/02 Wed

Spike's almost a newborn with a soul, and mom and dad (Xander and Buffy) are finally bringing the little bloodsucker home from the hellmouth nursery.

[> Re: Changing Rooms: Questions on who's living where, and why (spoilers S7) -- Sophie, 08:53:25 11/06/02 Wed

I've been wonderin' where Willow was moving to myself. I assumed that she left her stuff at buffy's. Hmmmm.... If Buffy is moving into her mom's room, it may be symbolic of her becoming Mom?

S

[> [> I think so. -- Deb, 09:05:45 11/06/02 Wed

SMG said on "The View" that Buffy was living the life of a single parent now. Slayer and single parent: Extra-Strengh, Superduper, Superhero! It is rather disturbing to me though that she can keep such a clean house.

[> Cryptless -- yez, 12:46:36 11/06/02 Wed

Well, I guess I can see the merits of mainstreaming Spike -- integrating him further into a "normal" human life by having him room with a human instead of live in a crypt. But I still wish we would've been privy to more of that discussion, even just a mention of the crypt being no good for the soul or somesuch.

And while Xander does express his opposition to the idea, it's still hard to believe that he would go along with it at all, seeing as how he recently tried to kill Spike for sleeping with Anya.

As for Willow's move, like Buffy moving into the master bedroom and becoming the mother, we get Willow relegated to daughter status, maybe -- another "child" that Buffy needs to look out for.

I really wish they would make reference to Willow paying rent or something. One, it would help explain how the hell Buffy affords that house, and two, it would dispel that freeloader taint.

On a side note, something of another room change has been the library being replaced by the laptop -- even after the actual school library left the building, so to speak, we had Giles' collection and then the collection at The Magic Box. Now, it seems they're always just online. And we know how unrealiable THOSE sources can be... ;)

I'd like to see an ep. where they start trying to track down some demon they read about online and it turns out it was just part of one of those trivia lists people fake and mail to see how many times it'll come back to them.

yez

[> [> Perhaps his crypt is now completely overrun with kittens? -- leslie, 13:34:50 11/06/02 Wed


[> [> [> You think Clem is on a diet? -- Sophist, 13:41:39 11/06/02 Wed


[> [> [> [> Well, he was gone during prime kitten-producing season. They get out of hand quickly. -- leslie, 14:48:36 11/06/02 Wed


[> [> [> [> [> Leslie.....we all know that Clem DOES NOT!!!!!!! eat Kittens...bad girl....;) -- Rufus....channeling dub, 17:06:05 11/06/02 Wed



When did D'Hoffryn turn into Tony Soprano? -- cjl, 08:55:20 11/06/02 Wed

Sending a minion back to Sunnydale to "whack" Anya, after that whole speech in "Selfless" about "never go for the kill when you can go for the pain"? What a creep.

He slips yet another three rungs on my ladder of estimation. Funny thing is, I used to really like D'Hoffryn, especially during "Something Blue" and "Hell's Bells." Oh, sure, I knew he was a pimp, but he seemed to be a fair and somewhat honorable businessman, and I thought he actually had some affection for his vengeance 'hos.

Then he parbroils Halfrek. (Before we could find out if she really was Cecily or not, dammit!) And now this.

He really is just a sleazy demon pimp. I hope Buffy or Willow or Anya take him out later this season. (Or at least do some damage to his horns...)

[> Maybe he didn't -- alcibiades, 12:30:14 11/06/02 Wed

You did notice that the demon doesn't talk during that scene -- he's too busy trying to kill the slayer -- it's as though Anya is providing both sides of the dialogue.

So we only know that D'Hoffryn tried to kill "Anyaka" with this demon because of her convenient monologue while Buffy is fighting.

Hmmm.

Seems like a bizarre choice for D'Hoffryn to make.

So if Buffy choose to impress RJ with her killing skills because she is so good at it, and Willow choose to her her magic skills to turn RJ into a girl because she is so good at magic, then why did Anya turn bank robber for the first time EVER to impress RJ?

I'm kind of wondering if the demon we see in the beginning wasn't a demon Anya summoned to help her figure out who she is now -- and if one possibility she was trying on wasn't bank robber. She tells Buffy she is an excellent strategist. But that is a rather unexplored aspect of her personality to date.

Anya does have all those boxes lying around her apartment -- reminds me a bit of all those new toys the trio acquired last year after the heist with the M'Fashnik demon.

OTOH, for a completely different explanation of the boxes, in STB and Supersymmetry, Cordelia's "room" is filled with packed boxes. This is a symbol for her amnesiac condition -- she can't unpack her personality, or she can only unpack it to a certain extent, little by little. But the major stuff is still boxed up and hidden in boxes.

So, here too, Anya doesn't know who she is -- she's experimenting -- and her apt is partially boxed up too, because she doesn't know what is the real Anya. It's interesting though, that she kept the huge triange symbol on the wall.

[> [> Anya's boxes -- yez, 13:12:48 11/06/02 Wed

I agree it seemed a odd choice for D'Hoffryn.

I'd assumed Anya's boxes signalled that she was packing to move, possibly to go "find herself." I just remembered, though -- or think I remember -- that wasn't Anya carrying a box out of The Magic Box (har-har) when Willow approaches her looking for Buffy and Xander in STSP? Your comment about the dastardly trio's boxes brought that up for me. If that memory is correct, then maybe Anya's been moving undamaged inventory out of the shop (and into her apt.). Though... I think we get a shot of Anya's apt. in Selfless, I don't remember any boxes.

yez

[> Definitely not Cecily . . . -- d'Herblay, 16:26:23 11/06/02 Wed

I was surprised when Halfrek was immolated without any explication of the "William?" remark in "Older and Farther Away," and, in fact, had just a week before stated that I thought there would soon be an admission by Halfrek that she had been Cecily. However, with the benefit of 20/20 hindsight, I can now categorically state that Cecily and Halfrek were not the same person. Being out of town during the original airing, I had missed the significance of Halfrek's "Listen, Anya. I know I've always been a little competitive with you, I mean, there was that thing in the Crimean War, we laugh about it now . . . " The Crimean War ended in 1856; Cecily was still Cecily in 1880. Therefore, making the assumption that Halfrek wasn't pretending to be a human in 1880, and with the assurance that Mutant Enemy always scrupulously strives for historical accuracy, I can assure you that Halfrek was never Cecily. (Ok, that's a slight assumption and a slightly misplaced assurance . . . )

[> Actually, your desire has to be phrased as a "Wish".......:):) -- Rufus, 21:20:02 11/06/02 Wed

I believe that the First Virture should be able to multi-task....or is that sub- contract..;)

[> Fool for Love Commentry -- Rahael, shamelessly plugging herself, 04:32:04 11/07/02 Thu

In the above, which I transcribed last week, Petrie commented that the writers have no clue how Cecily became Halfrek!


Why I enjoy watching Buffy (spoilage of HIM) -- Deb, 10:05:15 11/06/02 Wed

in 500 words or less:

When they say things, I remember other things. When they do something, I see something else in my head. For every action, and speech is an action (Burke), I have an equal and totally off the wall association that associates with something else, etc. etc. All the allusions keep my mind jumping like a bag of popcorn. Then by the end of the show, I have constructed an entirely new version of the episode with many strange "bedfellows." The best allusion last night:

"No one ever expects the Spanish Inquisition."
1. Monty Python
Gypsy Song
"When I was young my family was so poor we lived in a shoebox in the middle of the road."
British comedy
Joan and Randy
Who would name their kid Randy these days?
My sister-in-law
Thanksgiving Day in Hell
November Sweeps
All new Buffy episodes.
Him
"No one ever expects the Spanish Inquisition!"

2. "Sliding Doors" -- film
The Soul
Fate
subways
basements
closets
need to do something with my hair
Buffy, Willow and Dawn all have Bette Davis hair
Does Gwyneth P. have Bette Davis hair too?
Is Bette Davis hair the new Gwyneth Parthlow hair?
Why can't I spell GP's name correctly?
Why can't I spell period?
My thesis is driving me crazy.
I hear a little voice inside my head telling me to work on my thesis.
Is Spike still crazy or merely emotionally stifled?
Can Spike sleep at night or day?
I wish I could get five straight hours of sleep.
Maybe I should get a clock so I know when to go to bed.
Is Spike sleeping in the closet?
Strange roommates


3. Columbus Day
What a joke celebrating Columbus Day is.
Crusades
Evil
wet towels
s/m
closets

That's probably enough to demonstrate the concept.
Could have been the name of the ep. (or at least the name of the ep. I reconstructed in my head.)


Hating "Him" -- Spike Lover, 11:15:47 11/06/02 Wed

It was a farce. Well- that explains everything -I guess.



I hated it also, but for different reasons of course.

Some neutral comments:

1)Buffy has the 'Joyce' hair again. -Ick.

2)At the Bronze, Dawn had 'Faith' hair? By the way, how come Dawn never mentions Faith? Was that not programed into her memories as well?

Inconsistencies:

1)WHY would X allow Spike to move in? The last time they were even in close proximity for more than a minute was when he was trying to kill Spike for doing his X- Anya.

2) Why not have Spike move in w/ Anya? (You could have a sort of Will and Grace thing go on.)

3)Why can't he go back to his old crypt? Or room w/ his friend, Clem? Clemency might be exactly what Spike needs right now.

4)Last week, Buffy is trying to kill Anya, and now she suddenly calls her a 'friend'. You have got to be kidding me.

5)As already mentioned, WHY is D'Hoffryn trying to suddenly kill Anya?

NOW FOR THE ABSOLUTE HATE. PREPARE YOURSELF.

1) Buffy the Slut.
2) Dawn, lacking in moral fiber, and the embarrassing goofus. (I think I will try out for cheerleader without practising.)
3) Buffy the ineffectual parent.
4) X the wise, father figure.

Buffy the Slut.
A) I suppose that Hollywood just loves to make fun of the real world or something. It bothers me that this show, which we are suppose to take routinely seriously pokes fun at something so serious. I am not sure if there is any other job in America where the employees are under more strenuous scrutiny than in the school environment. A couple of weeks ago, Buffy barges into a parent's home and basically accuses the alcohic father of being a risk to his daughter. This week, BUFFY IS TRYING TO SEDUCE A STUDENT.

She would quickly find herself unemployed and possibly headed for jail. So much for my suspension of disbelief.

It is one thing if Ginny Calendar wants to take a bite out of Xander. (It NEVER got that far.)

B) Buffy actively pursues a guy her sister claims she loves. (Boy, this struck a nerve with me. I did not think it was funny at all.)

DAWN, LACKER OF ANY MORAL FIBER

A) The liar. Why take her word for anything? Of course, Buffy is a liar too.

B) Pushing someone down the stairs? Is this the start of evil? I mean, the shop lifting stuff started out small too, didn't it.

ONE SAVING GRACE

I finally did laugh, when Buffy had the Bazooka outside the principle's office and they showed Spike wrestling her to get it. By the way, is it not Federal law that you can not have any sort of weapon on school property?

Ok, I am ready. Rip it to shreds.

[> Uhm... they were under a spell. That's why they did those things. -- Apophis, 13:42:23 11/06/02 Wed


[> Re: Not hating "Him" at all (Spoilers for 7.06) -- grifter, 14:12:59 11/06/02 Wed

"Inconsistencies:"

1. Xander DID seem quite reluctant to let Spike stay with him. But Buffy can be quite convincing I guess, and the guy would do anything for her. Also, maybe he figured that this way he could keep an eye on Spike.

2. Anya? Nah, the two ex-evils wouldn´t be good for each other. Plus they slept together recently, so it would probably piss Xander off majorly.

3. I think Buffy doesn´t want Spike to be alone, that´s why he´s not going back to his crypt (and his former "life"). As for Clem, that would be a good idea I guess, but he doesn´t seem to be around anymore...

4. Last week, Anya was killing innocents by the dozens. Then she was ready to sacrifice herself to bring them back. With that she has redeemed herself to Buffy, and she can let her back into the group.

5. No idea, really. It will be explained eventually, I hope.

"NOW FOR THE ABSOLUTE HATE. PREPARE YOURSELF."

1. What show have you been watching? She was under a love spell!

2. Love Spell!

3. Love Spell!

4. Love Spe...no, wait, what did you mean with that?

[> [> Re: Not hating "Him" at all (Spoilers for 7.06) -- JM, 16:07:48 11/06/02 Wed

I also imagine that no one is particularly comfortable with the idea of Spike staying with a human woman. Buffy does think that it was a big deal that he understood the assault was a big, bad deal and that the fact he has a soul means something important. But it's still giving her a lot of uncomfortable moments. But at the same time, she wants someone to look after and take care of him. I thought it was a remarkably thoughtful, if awkward solution.

And kind of in line with how she approached Anya. She feels like it's important right now that she take care of all of her friends, even the ones she doesn't always like. She was sad about having to kill Anya, and not just for Xander's sake. Killing Anya was all about her being demony, probably soulless, and pretty dangerous. And not making an Angel- league mistake again. I bet she was pretty releived that she didn't have to ultimately do it. This week she finally decided to do for her two re-soulees what she did for Angel immediately out of love.

I kind of liked that the sister's vibe survived the love spell. It informed their jealousy and was also an undercurrent to the attempts to relate. Dawn still focused on feeling betrayed because she trusted and admired Buffy, and Buffy was concerned about Dawn's pain and delusions. And would have picked her over RJ in the end.

[> Did you like any of the episodes this season? - - Robert, 16:42:45 11/06/02 Wed


[> Sorry, SL, I'd be wasting my time. -- Rufus, 17:11:42 11/06/02 Wed


[> Loving "Her", so it all balances -- Cleanthes, 20:52:19 11/06/02 Wed



significant spike observation?..."HIM" spoilers and spec -- Adrianna, 12:02:36 11/06/02 Wed

Hi all,

I was surprised to see no one else here mentioned this, so maybe I am just making something of nothing, but....Spike had a reflection last night. A great big honkin' obvious one - twice!

The first one is in the glass of Lance and RJ's pictures at their house, and the second one is in the storefront window just before Spike and Xander grab the jacket from RJ.

At first I thought it was just sloppiness on the editors' part (or maybe on the director's part, staging them in front of a large glass plate), but then I figured not even the ME people ("Gee, DB's standing in an awful lot of sun there, d'you think we should pull the blinds down a little more?" "Nah, who'll notice?") would be that sloppy.
My other reason for thinking it was purposeful was the amount of time spent on "spike needs an invitation in" at Xander's apartment.

So, am I nuts, or does anyone else think this means something? Like maybe Spike last night wasn't really Spike, but was the shape-shifting basement monster? (would explain lack of quips n' insanity) Or something else?

[> Wow -- totally missed that. Thanks. -- yez, 12:27:55 11/06/02 Wed


[> I saw that too.. but I assumed it was a lack of funds for post editing -- neaux, 12:47:11 11/06/02 Wed


[> [> You're probably right...(NT) -- Adrianna, 12:57:40 11/06/02 Wed


[> [> [> Re: You're probably right...(NT) -- Cougar, 13:50:20 11/06/02 Wed

When Dawn leaves the principals ofice she leaves her bag on the chair, but is shown a moment later in the hall, carrying it. So perhaps the reflections were also overlooked.

[> Re: significant spike observation?..."HIM" spoilers and spec -- Wisewoman, 13:30:40 11/06/02 Wed

I dunno, I think you might be on to something there...I noticed that too.

[> Even if not a post-production SNAFU, it's Spike all right -- Steve, 14:00:34 11/06/02 Wed

Who else would carefully turn the little angels around, or roll his eyes at the mention of amateur poetry? Or even leave wet towels on the floor?

[> It was intentional at least with the plate glass window. -- Deb, 16:38:53 11/06/02 Wed

According to folklore, a soul casts the shadow. Did you notice what was in the store behind them? Televisions, many, many, many viewing screens. This is why I came up with a silly, silly, silly association with Batman and Robin, which was re-enforced when, after mugging the dude of his jacket, they ran toward backstage in the same pose that Batman and Robin were seen in often during the 60s campy version.

Back to reflection. The reflection could mean what you think is means, but it also could be an allusion that reflects the tone of the scene. It also could reinforce the fact that Spike/William is a "good" guy now, and his teaming up with Xander, who has no magical power, was an adventure in the direct, non- tech., non-magic, male method of directly dealing with a problem with common sense, which is something Spike will need to learn. In this case we have Robin mentoring Batman (who's a big sczitzed himself.) It simply self-reference itself for that matter.

[> [> But what about Angel? -- yez, 11:07:28 11/07/02 Thu

"According to folklore, a soul casts the shadow. "

If this is what they're going for (assuming the reflection was deliberate), then wouldn't Angel have a reflection, too? Just a couple of eps. ago, the lack of reflection was brought up pointedly as he snuck up behind someone who was looking at their own reflection.

yez

[> Same thing happened in Beneath You -- oboemaboe, 21:38:32 11/06/02 Wed

when he's stalking the rat.

[> he had one in Beneath you..."HIM" spoilers and spec -- luvthistle1, 00:32:55 11/07/02 Thu

When Spike is in the basement in the beginning of Beneath You you can clearly see his reflection in a piece of glass for like at least 5 seconds. it's his whole body. I do not think those are mistake. They had went through to many season with only making that mistake one, in season 2 with Angel. But you have never seen that mistake again. They have a bigger budget to fix it. So why would they make the mistake 3 times?

[> [> He had one in OAFA also -- Etrangere, 05:13:50 11/07/02 Thu

They can be sloppy you know.

[> Re: significant spike observation?..."HIM" spoilers and spec -- Isabel, 17:14:10 11/07/02 Thu

Hmm, maybe? But since we all know Spike and Angel have both had accidental reflections in the past, I recommend not reading too much into it. 1977-Really EEEVIL Spike in the subway had a reflection, if you looked carefully.

Now, if we hear Xander exclaim one morning, "Evil Dead! You've got a reflection!" Then we've got something.


Odd thing about the title of 7.6 -- Sophist, 12:21:47 11/06/02 Wed

In the LA Times, the title was "Hunk", not "Him". Anyone know why the title change?

[> Well, maybe -- HonorH, 13:06:36 11/06/02 Wed

TPTB simply wanted to give a nod to the classic AtS episode "She".

Hey! Stop throwing things at me!

[> [> I wondered -- Arethusa, 13:27:34 11/06/02 Wed

if it was a nod to H. Rider Haggard's "She."

[> Re: Odd thing about the title of 7.6 -- Darby, 15:17:24 11/06/02 Wed

Was "Hunk" too close to Lilah's "Hulk smash!" comment in Supersymmetry?

Would Lilah really make a "Hulk smash!" reference??

[> Re: Odd thing about the title of 7.6 -- leslie, 16:11:54 11/06/02 Wed

You're trusting the LA Times tv guide? As far as I can tell, a) they've fired all their fact checkers, and b) you now have to *fail* the spelling test in order to get hired there.


"Him": The Super-Evil Review -- Honorificus (The Truly Irresistable One), 13:04:49 11/06/02 Wed

If you came in here not expecting spoilers, you're even dumber than the average denizen of this board, so don't whine to me. See a K'v'Lagnath demon about a brain transplant.

Well, I've mixed feelings on this one. There were good things, there were bad things, and I'm not sure which outweighed which. But, as usual, we must have our priorities. Therefore:

Fashion Statements
The Good
Precious little in this episode, I'm afraid. We did have the lovely Principal Wood, and I've yet to see him in something unflattering. I've also yet to see him shirtless, which does leave me feeling somewhat unsatisfied, but we can work around that.

Xander was unusually good this week, however. The dark shirts really quite flatter him, and the turtlenecks reduce the Puffy Xander look somewhat.

The Bad
Where to start? What possessed the costuming director this week?

Buffy--not one, but two white Granny Blouses this week. What in hell's name is that about? Is she dipping into Anya's wardrobe?

Topping that off, though, was her Catholic schoolgirl getup. What, she's channeling Darla now? Right down to the bangs!

What *was* that eating Willow's top half? Sort of brown and see-through and glittery--if I didn't know better, I'd say a Bog Demon had smeared itself all over her torso.

RJ and his stupid letter jacket. I hate those things. They bring back unpleasant memories of the time when--through no fault of my own, mind you--I teleported smack into the middle of a high school pep rally. Yeek!

The Iffy
Anya's wardrobe was thoroughly unremarkable. This could be a good thing.

Dawn. She was certainly all over the board this week, wasn't she? The autumn-leaves camo shirt she wore in the opening scene was certainly bad. Her next shirt, the dark fluttery one, was a great improvement. Then there was her channeling-Faith slutwear, which she admittedly looked hot in. And finally, the beige--honey, it's just not your color. One final word to the makeup person: stop giving her peach and coral lipstick. The girl needs something in a cool palette.

Plot in a Nutshell
High school boy has enchanted jacket. Girls go ape over him, leading to lovely things like assault, betrayal, murder, and suicide. Then Xander has to go and interfere.

Demonic Quibbles and Comments
*Sigh* Sadly few this week. There was the very authentic-looking Keplac assassin demon D'Hoffryn sent after Anya, and I more than suspect the doe-eyed hanger-on of RJ's was played by a Weft, but other than that, nothing. Except that Willow was right: Spellus Interruptus really does irritate Hecate.

Highlights
Seeing Buffy and Dawn finally act like real sisters. There were the unfortunate smooshy scenes at the beginning and end, but other than that, the whole episode rang with true sisterhood--screaming matches, subtle and blatant betrayals, the calculated stripping away of dignity and hope. Brings back so many memories of Beltane feasts with my family. *Sigh!*

Xander and Spike forced to live and work together. I can think of no finer punishment for the both of them.

The logistics of a gay woman getting caught in a boy's love spell. You know, it would have served that boy right if Willow had completed her spell to turn him into a girl.

Dawn experiencing the true, brutal torture and calculated humiliation that is high school. I'm so glad they aren't letting the Twerp off easy.

Willow to Anya: "You'd kill for a chocolate bar!" Well, who wouldn't, honey?

Dawn shoving the boy down the stairs. Moments like that make me think she really does have potential.

Spike keeping Buffy from killing the principal. Pretty men don't grow on trees, you know.

Xander and Spike stealing the Jacket. It made me laugh.

Lowlights
Sisterly bonding. Bleah.

Buffy showing concern for both Spike and Anya. Double bleah.

Xander saving the day. Triple bleah.

Buffy's wardrobe. Bleah to the nth power.

The drawn-out train sequence. What, they had time to kill? It was stupid!

The Immoral of the Story
High school boys are the worst kind of evil and should be avoided at all costs, even by demons. Unless you're killing them, in which case, go right ahead.

Overall Rating
As I said before, I've mixed feelings on this one. Therefore, it'll be a kumquat in purple over 9 on the Non Sequitur Scale.

(Disclaimer: HonorH disavows any responsibility for the above views.)

[> Re: "Him": The Super-Evil Review (spoils yada yada) -- Sophomorica, sucking on a purple lollipop, 13:31:25 11/06/02 Wed

Topping that off, though, was her Catholic schoolgirl getup. What, she's channeling Darla now? Right down to the bangs!

That's exactly what I thought! Buffy under RJ's spell reminded me of Darla. Except Buffy immediately went for the kill, er, tried to go all the way. Darla would have used the guy for her ultimate gain and led him into thinking he was going to get some, but give him none. I guess that's the downside of having a soul.

[> [> being all soul-having... -- Le Fey, 10:58:59 11/07/02 Thu

"I guess that's the downside of having a soul."

Yes, and I found it simply delicious of our boy Drew Greenburg to have those disgusting "Scoobies" virtually ignore Spike's soul. Serves the little peroxided twerp right for thinking anyone would care. Ha!

[> Please to offer Your Advice, oh Fashion-Victim- Eater -- pr10n, 14:00:47 11/06/02 Wed

[start obsequious fawning]

In my limited and mortal experience I have assumed that a man's tie must at least reach his belt buckle to not look doofy, yet Principal Wood (may he never shave or at least not his face) consistently wears his tie so it hangs to about his (taut) abdomen.

[toady toady] I bet I missed an announcement about tie length somewhere, but I'm certain that Your Graceful Yumminess will know the truth. Or perhaps one of Your minions might know, and contribute to this poor business casual dresser's sad life?

[end obsequious fawning, for now]

[> [> Stepping in for the fashion victim eater... -- Devilish, who never tires of mocking a poorly dressed mortal, 21:14:44 11/06/02 Wed

as She-Who-Eats-the-Haplessly-Dressed seems to have had her fill for the evening (Those calories do add up. And she ain't getting any younger and you know what that does to the old metabolism.)

If you prefer to stick to the Fashion 101 rules, yes your tie should ideally reach your belt buckle. Now for all you rebels out there (and you know who you are, rabble-rousers, you) it can be shorter, it's all in the attitude. Principal Hottie has the 'tude, not to mention the body, to carry it off. But for Gracknar's sake, whatever you do, don't have your tie extend too far past the belt buckle. You'll look like you're wearing your Daddy's tie and are playing Dress-Up. Unless, of course the situation calls for it and if it does then much luck to you .

[> [> [> Watch. Yourself. -- Honorificus (The Unaging and Eternal), 22:15:05 11/06/02 Wed

For your information, I haven't gained a single pound since 1820, and I lost those very quickly. It's not like that party of nabobs was missed, anyway, and I was in heat.

However, you do happen to be correct about the tie thing. Principal Wood can wear his that way simply because it looks frankly fabulous on him, like everything else he's worn. One should never be confined by fashion rules, especially when one is male and a hottie. A little rebellion is a good thing. Particularly when it emphasizes one's taut, muscular tummy.

[> [> [> [> Weeping for joy at the brief attention. Indeed, molting! Thanks. -- pr10n, 22:27:47 11/06/02 Wed


[> [> [> [> Re: Tie length -- Brian, 06:07:09 11/07/02 Thu

I was taught that a correctly tied tie has the two ends as close to each other as possible, and let those tips fall where they may.

[> [> [> [> [> Agreed -- Spry-(for a corpse)-kovsky, 03:08:57 11/08/02 Fri

True.

But preferably with the tie tied so tightly around the neck that it does unmendable damage to the trachea. Haven't had as mellow a high after a killing as my infamous Tie Deaths of 1971. Death by strangulation can seem so easy- but it's one of the classics

[> The Inescapable Torture of Love and other happy thoughts -- The Unclean (back from vacation), 14:02:40 11/06/02 Wed

I have finally returned to my hive after an unexpectedly extended vacation at my mother-in-law's pit of horrors, where I was consistently berated for my low kill ratio, my failure to elevate myself in the Priesthood of Belial, and the lack of hatchlings for the ghastly, withered creature to feed upon. It was sometime during the second week, when I wistfully looked out at the bubbling pool of sulfur just beyond her living room window, and wondered: how in the name of all that's unholy did I get into this mess?

Love, as the Slayer and her fellow miscreants like to say, makes you do the wacky.

It was somewhat comforting for me to watch the latest episode of the Slayer's adventures and realize that Love Is Pain is the working model for sentient creatures throughout the multiverse, including the infernal Scooby Gang. No matter how much they profess to be paragons of morality and desire to do "good," the primal urges and desires that fire all creatures, demon and human, drive them to acts of madness they cannot possibly justify to themselves. And yes, Dawn- whelp--eventually, you will be driven to further acts of hormone-crazed insanity, and there will no spell upon which to shift the blame.

(Excuse me--evil, maniacal laughter coming through...)

Mwhahahahahahahaha.....

The most splendid Honorificus covered most of the irritants in the episode, but I was especially annoyed by the relative even-headedness of the Harris boy, who showed an uncommon resistance to the temptations of magic this episode. I'm waiting for him to commit his annual screw-up, but it's been six episodes and he's been disgustingly noble and mature all the way through. I'm concerned, to say the least.

I was cheered by the ghastly foreshadowings of next week's episode, and the portents of dark evil descending over Sunnydale in the weeks to come. However, I'll be spending the rest of the week unpacking, as my mate decided to do "a little shopping" during vacation.

(What I wouldn't do for one of D'Hoffryn's assassins right now...)

[> [> *So* very glad to have you back, dearest! -- Honorificus (The Single-and-Happy One), 23:05:14 11/06/02 Wed

Your mate's matriarch sounds like a horror indeed. It reminds me of why I've never married (or the like). The one time I came even close, I discovered that my Preferred One's primary mother was a harpy, and his secondary mother was a half-breed gargoyle with a foul temper. I told him not to get his tail caught in the door when he left.

But I digress. Wonderful thoughts! Yes, indeed, I am looking forward to the day when the Twerp discovers the true horrors of love on the Hellmouth, as her sister and friends have time and again. It should prove to be a wonderful distraction for the Slayer.

As for Xander--you and I are quite in the same circle on that being. I find it absolutely disgusting, the way that boy has turned from being a relatively-inocuous irritant to a serious threat. And he's only a mortal! What kind of message does this send? Personally, I'm outraged, and I'd write a poisonous (literally) letter to the Joss Being, but he apparently has *protection*. My first two certainly didn't help matters any. I'd swear he takes them as encouragement.

Oh, and dear, I do know where you can engage assassin demons of all kinds. What method do you prefer? Immolation? Evisceration? Defenestration?

[> [> [> The demon Talks Big, but he'll never go through with it.. -- cjl (a friend of the family), 07:02:48 11/07/02 Thu

You have to understand the kind of pressure my demon-brother is under: he can't get anywhere in the Priesthood because he won't suck up to the Heresiarchs (who are in it for the Perks, and not the carnage), and that's keeping his kill count low. (How can you rack up victims when the High Priests are scheduling keggers every weekend?)

As for the fertility thing...well, he and his mate are sensitive about that, and I don't blame them. But if they didn't have a real attachment to each other, she would have eaten him decades ago.

So, holster the assassins for awhile, O Luminous One. (But he'll give you a call the next time he has to visit his mother-in- law's house. Maybe the old crone can take an "accidental" dip into the sulfur pit?)

[> [> [> [> oh poop -- Sophomorica, 12:43:24 11/07/02 Thu

So, holster the assassins for awhile, O Luminous One.


There hasn't been a good defenestration since 1816! And I was getting all excited!

[grumbles off to the subway to look for something yummy for dinner]

[> [> [> [> [> double poop - make that 1618!!!!! -- Sophomorica, chewing on naughty keyboard, 12:44:51 11/07/02 Thu


[> [> [> [> [> [> Defenestrations throughout History (spoilers for cjl's European vacation) -- cjl, 13:01:19 11/07/02 Thu

Actually, guys, gals 'n' demons, defenestration has been a part of the history of the Czech republic since the first Bohemian tribes settled in the valley. The most recent example was in the post-WWII era, when the commies and the social democrats(?) were sharing power, and a key SD official "mysteriously" plunged to his death from his office window, opening the door to forty-plus years of repressive communist rule.

You can't make this stuff up.

[> [> [> [> [> [> [> That's why smart demon politicians live underground -- Lebasi, 17:18:39 11/07/02 Thu


[> Re: "Him": The Super-Evil Review -- leslie, 16:08:24 11/06/02 Wed

"Topping that off, though, was [Buffy's] Catholic schoolgirl getup. What, she's channeling Darla now? Right down to the bangs!"

Oh, I thought that was quite deliberate. She puts it on as soon as she starts seducing high school boys who think they're the ones in control (exactly what Darla was up to) *and* as soon as she starts trying to explain about how she isn't *really* all that much older than a high school boy. She's deliberately trying to look young, and we're supposed to note the inappropriateness. (Unlike the "Mom" look she's been going for, which, yuck.) The bangs, I admit, were already there, but frankly, I liked them--they make her look less gaunt.

[> You missed a highlight, oh strangely coiffed one -- Devilish, slipping on the stilettos, 17:24:12 11/06/02 Wed

How could you miss the cat fight? Those sharp (some say beady but I think they're just being mean) eyes of your's miss that? It seems that Dawnie has forgotten the training that Buffy gave her over the hiatus.

[> [> How little you understand me. -- Honorificus (Whose Hair Is Perfection), 17:35:14 11/06/02 Wed

Certainly, the catfight was somewhat fun. Overall, however, watching a mystical teenager and a Weft (I'm really quite certain that other female was one--she certainly wasn't human) pull each other's hair holds little interest to me. I was more intrigued by the Twerp helping the annoying dark-haired boy down the stairs. I mean, really, what's more impressive: a deliberate attempt at murder or disablement, or a girly-fight?

And what do you mean about my hair? Do you think just any powerful, immortal entity can carry off multi-colored dredlocks?

[> [> [> Dreadlocks? -- Devilish, looking for her minion a.k.a. the boyfriend, 20:17:11 11/06/02 Wed

I thought you were trying flatter Medusa or soemthing to that degree.

You are right, Folically Impaired One. Dawnie helping the boy is infinitely more noteworthy than a girly cat fight. But it's not often that you see one of those on this show. How do you know she's a Weft and not a Warp?

[> [> [> clarifying -- SpikeMom, 21:46:44 11/06/02 Wed

Wefts in the Buffyverse

Warps in the ATPverse

[> [> [> [> *lol* that was oh so very good. -- devilish, 09:03:59 11/07/02 Thu


[> Re: "Him": The Super-Evil Review -- ponygoyle, 18:20:51 11/06/02 Wed

Another monstrously delightful review! I salute you (and I assure you among my people that finger gesture is a sign of respect)!

I for one have grown weary of the "no spell is stronger than Buffy's love for Dawn" shtick. Obviously no one's been trying the right spells-- I've got a few that would have Buffy not only leaving Dawn on the tracks, but encouraging the train to back up over her. How about The Invocation of a Stell McCartney Sample Sale? No, I think Buffy's used that one a few times. Okay how about the Charms of Naked Spike? Well, I guess she's already walked away from that one (weird). Ooh, this is interesting, a Spell to Fix Angel's Soul, No Matter How Often He Makes With The Hot Monkey-Love, While Restoring His BtVS S2 Physique Yet Retaining His AtS Sense Of Humour. Still not enough? Okay, let me flip over to the good stuff-- The Spike/Principal Wood Tasteful Nude Wrestling At The Neiman Marcus Shoe Sale Incantation...ahem... I think I need some alone time with my spell book. See ya.

[> [> What wonderful suggestions! -- Honorificus (The Fully Delightful One), 19:12:27 11/06/02 Wed

Inspired by you, I've been spending some time with my own spellbooks. I've come up with a few spells that could conceivably turn our Slayer into a super-horny, sister- ignoring, demon-jumping uber-slut. To wit:

1.) The Eros-Lambada Spell: An oldy but a goody. Now, you'd have to substitute mountain goat horn for rhino horn (damn poaching laws), and then add some wolfsbane to punch up the potency, but it would work nicely.

2.) The Sisters-Three Disco Diva: A more recent invention. Given the Slayer's constitution, you'd have to mix it with copious amounts of alcohol to give it the best advantage. Just mix her a rum-heavy margarita or whatnot, and be sure to add a touch of powdered marnac root to guard the spell's ingredients against the alcohol. You think Dawn's little dance was hot? Watch this one, and lock up your daughters, because the Slayer will be coming for them!

3.) The Effulgent Tantric Stiffener: This is normally used on men, but given the Slayer's elevated hormone levels, I believe it would work perfectly. Add in a bit of liquid moonlight to adjust for her gender, of course, but this spell would have her jumping Snyder if he was the only male available.

If Joss really wanted to make Buffy miserable via love spell, he'd have asked us. I guess he, like every other male on the planet, prefers talking big to actually doing something. Hmph!

[> [> [> It's a crying shame that you don't live in NYC -- Sophomorica, chewing on a Neiman Marcus Shoe, 20:10:54 11/06/02 Wed


[> [> [> [> Neiman's? Was Bergdorf's or Barney's closed? -- Devilish, admiring some divine Jimmy Choo sandals, 20:22:07 11/06/02 Wed


[> [> [> [> [> You're right, next time I will go to Pravda's. -- Sophomorica, spitting on Neiman Marcus Shoe, 20:27:12 11/06/02 Wed


[> [> [> Excellent! Most usually forget the key ingredient to love spells - tequila! -- ponygoyle making with the margaritas, 06:08:28 11/07/02 Thu


[> BANGS! -- Slain, 19:14:08 11/06/02 Wed

Buffy with bangs looks like she's just walked out from her trailer to see if her husband is back with the beer. They do not suit her, damnit!

[> [> Re: BANGS! -- Devilish, fluffing her done undone sexy bed hair, 20:57:56 11/06/02 Wed

The bangs are an abomination! They strangely harken back to S1. Buffy the sophomore had bangs with less plucked brows. And who could forget all those push up bras?

[> Re: "Him": The Super-Evil Review -- Rufus, 01:10:10 11/07/02 Thu

We did have the lovely Principal Wood, and I've yet to see him in something unflattering. I've also yet to see him shirtless, which does leave me feeling somewhat unsatisfied, but we can work around that.

Yes, the others can have their Spike(I may like the character, but ewwwww it would be like kissing my brother)so that leaves me precious little...and Principal Wood is a nice looking fellow....wonder how tall he is and if he does windows...with Riley gone I have to think about a replacement.

[> The hair was the worst ever! On everybody but Wood. -- luna, 08:05:53 11/07/02 Thu



Why now and not then? (spoilers for "Him") -- Cougar, 14:09:25 11/06/02 Wed

Hi, today is the first time I've posted (anywhere, ever) so I hope I get the protocol right. I found this board a few months back and thought "Wow, I've found my people!"

I'll start with something fairly concrete and practical. If R.J.'s brother wore the jacket when in Highschool with Zander, why didn't Buffy or Willow fall from him then? And Why were the Scoobies so infatuated when most girls (save a few) at the school seemed uneffected?

[> Welcome. Take a look at Earl Allison's thread below for some thoughts on your questions. -- Sophist, 14:16:20 11/06/02 Wed


[> [> Sorry I missed that -- Cougar, 14:22:55 11/06/02 Wed

Thanks. Sorry, I just noticed that below, I missed that thread somehow.

I think I'll try out for cheerleader next.

[> [> [> LOL -- Sophist, 16:20:31 11/06/02 Wed


[> Re: Easy answer -- Pamela, 15:53:53 11/06/02 Wed

In one part of the episode Xander mentions that he was a Freshman when RJ's older brother was a senior.

As Buffy/Xander/Willow are all the same age...Buffy was still in Los Angeles the year RJ's older brother wore the jacket. As for Willow...back then she was most likely with her head in the books or computer club.


Understanding Willow's Sexuality (Caution: S7 Spoilers, Speculation, and Mature Themes) -- ZachsMind, 15:55:41 11/06/02 Wed

With the episode "Him" I think it's now a proper time to explore this question of Willow that has been a great debate among the Buffy fan community for years. Is Willow bisexual? If ever there were questions about Willow's sexuality before this week, hopefully now they can all be fully answered. Despite the magic spell which seemed to have no 'saving throw' and caused all four major female characters to lose their common sense, Willow STILL felt a need to convert this mystically forced amour to her specifications, by turning the guy in the letter jacket into a female. Personally I wish she'd been successful. That woulda been hilarious! However, my point here is that had Willow truly been bisexual, the magic spell would have been strong enough to make her settle for a male over a female. That's not what happened. So now. Today. We can say she's definitely GAY NOW.

Or can we? I used to concur that Willow was bi. However, it's much more complicated than that. Willow may require a new term be invented. She was straight at first, with Xander & Oz. Then Tara arrived on the scene and all bets were off. She tasted the other white meat and found that she prefers it. However, it wasn't just that Tara was physically alluring (dare I say huggibly delicious?). It was WHO Tara was, and how multi-faceted and deep she was on very subtle, almost imperceptable levels. One could say Tara's an "old soul." Someone with much more to her than what meets the eye. Oz may be an old soul too. We can say she knew there was something mysterious about him that turned her on, but Willow liked Oz before he became a werewolf. So it wasn't that. It was something deeper.

Willow is affected by certain individuals on a near spiritual level. She felt that way towards both Oz (male) and Tara (female). She's very selective in that area. This alone is proof that gender is not a major factor in Willow's selection process. As she pointed out in the episode "Him" when it was brought to her attention that Jacket Boy was male. "I can work around that." The physical stipulations of the reality she senses are not as important to her as what her own soul desperately needs on a level that the mere physical world claims to limit but truly does not.

Willow's early interest in Xander was just out of their deep rooted history together. He was like Linus' security blanket to Willow. Xander represented security and an unchanging island amidst the flurry of change elsewhere in her life. Even now, Xander offers a grounding to Willow, a power that no other person has over her. An intrinsic mutual trust. Xander thinks it was the Crayon Breaky Willow speech that stopped Dark Willow. His words. In fact it was just his presence and his steadfast refusal to let her destroy the world without taking him first. There's a love there between them, but it transcends mere physical affection. In fact sex would somehow demean what they mean to each other. Not because sex is wrong. It's not. It's because sex between them would be like playing a virtual card game on a super computer. You can do it, but why? It's kinda pointless and a waste. In season one Willow was unhappy to find herself in Xander's "friends zone." Today, the opposite may be true. Or they may simply have a mutual understanding. She is his Best Man. They've known one another longer, and they know each other more intimately and intrinsically, than any others who know them.

Notice that they have NEVER explored the possibility that Willow finds Buffy attractive. This is for similar reasons regarding why she no longer finds Xander physically interesting. Willow could just never see Buffy in that manner, any more than she could see Dawn in that way. It'd be almost incestuous to her, and neither character affects Willow deep down in the way that she needs in order to be physically involved.

In season six, when Amy magically called over a random female from the crowd at The Bronze to be Willow's rebound from Tara, Willow declined the idea. She can't just have anybody randomly, male or female. It's not the gender alone that matters. Although now that she's tasted the fruit of the Yoni Temple, she's obviously not interested in the old and tired bunch of bananas that social culture dictates she should prefer. It can be argued that at one time she was straight or at one time she was bi. If a male witch came along with the physical appeal of Angel and the wise maturity of Giles, Willow could possibly still find herself attracted to him. Would she act on it? Possibly, but ultimately she'd find herself unfulfilled. UNLESS the male witch was also an OLD SOUL that did the same things to her innards that Oz & Tara did.

Whether the writers' next love interest for Willow is male or female, it shouldn't matter so long as they know to focus on the fact that it's the 'soul of the person' Willow loves. Not the plumbing. That's what turns her head. Something deeper and more majestic than mere biceps or breasts. Something that isn't just friend and isn't just lover but both and other things that can't quite be put into words. Something special that defies conscious understanding and yet makes her world somehow make sense, just by being in that special person's presence.

In that one regard Willow's very mature. She may not consciously know what she wants, but she knows it when she senses it on an unconscious level. If only she could approach the rest of her life with such sensibility. That is perhaps the most fascinating irony of her character.

[> Re: Understanding Willow's Sexuality (Caution: S7 Spoilers, Speculation, and Mature Themes) -- Apophis, 17:23:34 11/06/02 Wed

Okay. Last year, I got yelled at for commenting on Willow's sexuallity (though I honestly don't remember if it was here or elsewhere, so I apologize for any misplacement of blame). So did some other people. Despite this, I'm gonna try again, because deep down, I hate myself.
I always figured Willow for being bisexual. I thought it was about the person, not the equipment (Willow said something like this last night, though she was under a spell). She didn't fall for Tara because she was so damn hot (not that she wasn't); she loved her for being Tara.
Anyway, apparently Joss himself stated recently in an interview that Willow is 100%, no holds barred, GAY. I didn't read the interview, but I have no reason to doubt it. I got this information from AintItCool.com (not in the TalkBack section, though, so it's trustworthy), in case anyone's curious. Now, according to the posters there (who have, in the past, been... let's call it "overzealous"), Joss got yelled at by some gay organization or another for A) killing Tara and B) allegedly planning to have Willow date a guy again. I don't know if it's true and at this point it's rather moot.
Last year, I said it would be somewhat callow of ME to change a storyline/character simply to appease a special interest group. I said this would somewhat compromise their artisitc integrety. Again, I got yelled at for being a bigot and a fool. Some people believe there is evidence that Willow was gay all along. I read their evidence and found it compelling, but inconclusive. It occurred to me and to others that her being gay from day one would invalidate her attraction to Xander and Oz. Maybe I just don't understand the psychology behind the emotional development of a homosexual, but that's what I thought, and I wasn't alone.
Now, to sum up, I always believed that Willow loved Tara, who was a woman, not A Woman, named Tara. I thought it was about loving a person, not a gender. Maybe I was wrong, but that's what I thought. Anyway, none of it matters if Joss did indeed say what he said. I stand by my belief that, if ME was in fact influenced in this decision by the outrage of an outside source, this is a comprimise of their integrety. If they did it because they honestly wanted Willow to be gay, not bisexual, then I'm okay with it. That's their choice. I don't have a problem with any character (or person, for that matter) being gay. I honestly don't see Willow getting into a relationship this season, anyway.
It occurs to me that I'm getting dangerously close to rambling, so I'll conclude here. The comments herein are just what I thought/think. I'm sorry if I've missed something, failed to understand something, offended someone, or am out and out wrong. Please don't yell at me.

[> [> Re: Understanding Willow's Sexuality (Caution: S7 Spoilers, Speculation, and Mature Themes) -- Wolfhowl3, 19:52:39 11/06/02 Wed

I have also read that same interview, (but I can't remember where.)

Basically, it said that the desicion to make Willow Gay, instead of Bi was made long before Tara was killed (around the time they made W&T a couple). Thus it was not done to appies any interest group.

Wolfie

[> [> [> I don't see why, it kind of makes me sad...Willow was a big crush -- Charlemagne20, 20:58:08 11/06/02 Wed

I mean why exactly did Joss feel the need here? I mean Xander/Willow was a great thing I wanted them to keep hope for exploration but instead they just basically say "Siyanorah....no chance here". I understand perfectly why they would want a character gay and even why they would have such but to ignore the established history...

I never liked the last episode with Oz because it humiliated the poor man as well as made him out to be a villain.

[> [> [> [> I'm right there with ya, (NT) -- Shiraz, 14:00:22 11/07/02 Thu


[> [> [> [> [> In an interview I read during that time, Joss said the opposite.... -- Briar Rose, 23:25:30 11/08/02 Fri

[paraphrasing here] That Willow was a "bi- at most" and that she wasn't "gay" in the normal meaning of the word to many. That was right at the beginning of the whole "How dare you kill Tara" thing.

I have a feeling that Joss did as Joss is prone to do - He's EVIL.*LOL He says what he thinks the target audience of the perticular interview wants to hear and if he gets in trouble, he just changes his mind on what to say. Not that that's a bad thing and that's what keep us all guessing no matter what the spoiler sites post. It is never "exactly right" but not necessarily wrong.

In truth, I agree with the posters who say that Willow is actually not able to be pigeon holed into any one "lifestyle" at all. She is drawn to the inner self and if it has breasts or biceps doesn't matter. She fulfills herself through her relationships with others and that doesn't matter if it's though friendly relationships or sexual ones.

[> [> Re: Understanding Willow's Sexuality (Caution: S7 Spoilers, Speculation, and Mature Themes) -- Miss Edith, 20:26:47 11/08/02 Fri

I remember Joss and Marti were interviewed shortly after Tara's death and they confirmed Willow was going to remain gay. Joss said if Tara had left in happier circumstances they may have been able to play with a more fluid sexuality. But they had a debate after Tara's death over whether Willow was experimenting or gay and realised they would be "eaten alive" if Willow began dating men again.

[> Re: Understanding Willow's Sexuality (Caution: S7 Spoilers, Speculation, and Mature Themes) -- DEN, 22:32:55 11/06/02 Wed

The "soul-mate" argument you make in the body of your posting is eloquent and convincing. To place the weight you do on Willow's literal gender-bending, however, seems problematic. By that logic Buffy is a murderer, Anya a criminal, and Dawn a suicide junkie. In other words the enchantment of the jacket drove each woman to distorted , not fundamental, behaviors, Willow's being not sex-changing but dark magic. The jacket did not strip away masks and allow essential identities to emerge--unless ME is insulting us by telling us we have become vested in a clutch of sociopaths! (That last being, IMO, all too possible!)

[> [> "By that logic..." Yes and..? -- ZachsMind, 14:39:01 11/07/02 Thu

"By that logic Buffy is a murderer..."

Buffy kills demons and vampires on the average one or two per episode. She killed Adam who was part human. She has threatened to kill humans before, and has even used lethal force on Faith, who barely escaped Buffy's wrath with her life on more than one occasion. Also, lest we forget Buffy sacrificed her lover Angel in order to save the planet. Though her actions are noble and understandable, she has murdered before.

"..Anya a criminal.."

She's been a vengeance demon off and on for a millenium. She helped instigate the communist uprising in mother Russia. As Willow put it last episode, "you'd kill for a chocolate bar." At best, Anyanka is amoral, and has done her share of criminal behavior in her time.

"...and Dawn a suicide junkie..."

She was going to sacrifice herself when Buffy chose to use herself to close Glory's portal instead (both Summers girls are suicidal). Dawn slit her own wrist to prove to herself she could bleed when she found out she was the key. Dawn has shown violent and self- destructive tendencies in the past two years. She mopes and plays the dutiful martyr. She often believes no one notices her and commits acts like kleptomania or self-abuse in order to be noticed. And any shrink will tell you: attempting suicide is the ultimate cry for attention. So she has a death wish. She is a suicide junkie.

So I do still argue that though the spell did distort their common sense, acting in a vaguely similar way to alcohol in that their inhibitions went out the window, each character did respond fundamentally each to their own character traits.

"unless ME is insulting us by telling us we have become vested in a clutch of sociopaths! (That last being, IMO, all too possible!)"

Hope for the best but expect the worst, I always say. =) If this were real life, Buffy would have been put away for sociopathic behavior years ago. Yes friends, we have become emotionally invested in a bunch of crazy psychos. Viva la difference!

[> [> [> You do realize... -- MaeveRigan, 18:43:48 11/07/02 Thu

...that some watching BtVS seriously feel that they have "become emotionally investing in a bunch of crazy psychos" and they're not happy at all?

Some may have forgotten that "Life's a show, and we all play our parts / And when the music starts / We open up our hearts..." and "You'll get along / The pain that you feel / You only can heal by living," i.e., by letting the season unfold.

[> [> [> [> All the world's a stage... -- ZachsMind, 07:52:54 11/09/02 Sat

Shakespeare said the same exact thing centuries ago.

All the world's a stage,
And all the men and women merely players;
They have their exits and their entrances,
And one man in his time plays many parts,


Jacques is one melancholy and despicably slothful and worthless dude, but one of my favorite Shakespeare characters. One can become emotionally invested in an anti-hero or even a villianous character without becoming one. It's called walking a mile in someone else's shoes. We empathize with Spike, hope he learns from his mistakes. We understand why he is the way he is but that doesn't mean we agree with those actions. We can hate the sin yet love the sinner. "There are more things in heaven and earth, than are dreamt of in your philosophy." As Giles might say. We feel for these characters, and may not understand why, but perhaps at least partly it's because we see a glimpse of ourselves in the funhouse mirror. Oh but for the grace of God go I...

[> Willow's Sexuality and the Dangers of Romanticizing Homosexuality -- yez, 11:48:16 11/07/02 Thu

From the mouth of Whedon:

(http://www.tvguide.com/newsgossip/insider/021030b.asp)

Buffy Star Dead Again

Wednesday, October 30, 2002

Another setback for poor, lovelorn Willow (Alyson Hannigan) on Buffy the Vampire Slayer. The recovering witchoholic's deceased love Tara (Amber Benson) will not be resurrected this season after all. According to series creator Joss Whedon, Benson — who was slated to be brought back to life as a different character — failed to reach a deal with producer 20th Century Fox.

"It was a question of negotiations, as it sometimes is," he tells TV Guide Online. "It's sad, because I love Amber. But that's between her and Fox." Adds Benson's rep: "She's very proud of her work on the show, but ultimately, we couldn't work out the right deal."

Well, Benson's comeback, like her alter ego, was shot down, but that doesn't mean Willow won't fall under the spell of another enchantress. Whedon reveals that the sapphic Scooby "is going to meet someone" new. "I can't say whether or not it's going to work out, but she's definitely not joining a nunnery." Another definite: The onetime hetero won't be going back to boys. "This I will tell you without any equivocation," he says, "Willow's gay."

Well, there was that whole Oz (Seth Green) phase... "It takes a while for some people to realize it," reasons Whedon. "Truthfully, when we first started the [Willow-Tara love story], we were like, 'Is [Willow] bi? Is she gay? What do we want to say? What do we want to do?' "We decided it would be unfair of us, particularly considering the circumstances of Tara's controversial death, to say, 'Oh, now Willow's over it.' Or, 'Willow's bi so we can have more storylines,'" he continues. "So, we do have somebody in mind that Willow will meet in the future who might shake up her world just a little bit — and it'll be a girl." — Michael Ausiello Is this Buffy's final season? Read what Joss Whedon has to say by clicking here.


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Not that I pretend to be representative of or speak for our teeming masses, but I self-identify as a lesbian. Like Willow, I had romantic and sexual relationships with men through my early college years -- even after I'd acknowledged and acted upon my attraction to women. There are a lot of reasons why I had relationships with men: because I was truly fond of and/or attracted to them, and also, honestly, because pairing up with guys after parties or whatnot was just what was done -- not so much peer pressure but a long-standing tradition in our small town where there wasn't anything else to do.

That said, I've never fallen in love with a man -- only with women. And THAT said, I haven't been in love with every woman I've slept with.

My own personal belief is that sexuality isn't a knob with just 3 settings: heterosexual -- bisexual -- homosexual. I believe that sexuality is a dynamic continuum; people fall wherever they fall, and that can change -- and change back - - over the course of their lives. And I think that there's a lot that influences where people fall on that continuum as well as what behavior they exhibit, which isn't always the same thing. Those influences include how you're born, how you're raised, the experiences you have in your life and the opportunities you get.

So what's my point... My point is that while I believe it's true that people can have soul connections, I think it's also true that chemistry can bubble up between bodies and spark physical attraction. And I don't think it's fair to people who identify as homosexual -- or to the character of Willow -- to romanticize the relationships as being all about soul connections. I used to think that when I first got involved with a woman, that it was all about soul and body was irrelevant. That was the only way I could explain what was happening to myself; because the thought of homosexuality was so foreign and unacceptable to me, I had to mythologize what was happening.

I don't think I'm explaining this right... I guess basically what I'm trying to say is that having Willow's connection to Tara -- or any other woman or man for that matter -- be *all* about soul *all* the time denies Willow's sexual self. I, for one, would like to see Willow have some great casual sex (with one or more women -- personal pref) so she can get in better touch with her body and her sensuality.

Well, I don't actually have to SEE it... not that I would complain too much.

yez

[> [> Spoilers for future eps above -- Sophist, 13:05:17 11/07/02 Thu


[> [> [> Oh, dammit ... Sorry and thanks. :( -- yez, 14:09:03 11/07/02 Thu


[> [> Of course, casual sex is something frowned upon most of the time by the BtVS writers. -- Finn Mac Cool, 13:55:39 11/07/02 Thu


[> [> Compelling points -- Rahael, 16:39:47 11/07/02 Thu


[> [> And a great post... -- aliera, 18:30:05 11/07/02 Thu

I am in the middle of (a trying to refrain from reading whilst I should be sleeping) the great new book by Ellen Kushner and Delia Sherman. Very different than my own experiences (well, it's a fantasy world.. sort of)but completely enthralling read...

"My own personal belief is that sexuality isn't a knob with just 3 settings: heterosexual -- bisexual -- homosexual. I believe that sexuality is a dynamic continuum; people fall wherever they fall, and that can change -- and change back -- over the course of their lives..."

And I agree. Tara's a complicated and loaded subject and so are gender issues (as any search reveals.) Yet intriguing. And I think your point is well taken... and not just in regard to Willow.

[> [> [> Thanks for info that the new Ellen Kushner book is out... -- alcibiades, 20:12:53 11/07/02 Thu


[> [> [> Re: And a great post... -- akanikki, 21:47:51 11/07/02 Thu

Ok this is 2nd hand - but some friends were describing a recent show they were watching and how sexuality was described as a continuum on a scale of 1-10, with 1 being attraction to males and 10 to females with 5 being an equal attraction to either. So a true "heterosexual" would be a 1 or 10 depending on gender - as would a true "homosexual". The point made in the show is that most people really fall in the midranges but with clear preferences, being attracted to both sexes at various times for different reasons (and usually accompanied by strong denial).

I will try to get more info - whether it's based on a book (probably)or not and if it's just more pop psychology or has a science-based, studies-supported premise.

[> [> [> [> The Kinsey Scale -- Masq, 06:17:50 11/08/02 Fri

A very well-known study done many years ago now. If you do an internet search on it, you will get lots of info.

[> [> [> [> [> I thought there were serious problems with Kinsey... -- KdS, 06:27:23 11/08/02 Fri

In particular that he spoke to volunteer subjects. It's been suggested that (especially in the 1950s-60s) people who were willing to talk in great detail about their sexual activities might have been more experimental than average.

[> [> [> [> [> [> Re: I thought there were serious problems with Kinsey... -- akanikki, 10:45:45 11/08/02 Fri

Thanks, Masq and KdS - my reading material tends more towards the business and fiction best seller lists, so it was all new to me. Interesting concept, whether or not it is particularly valid...

[> [> [> Re: And a great post... -- vh, 13:18:33 11/08/02 Fri

I agree. I think that's why so many people seem so very uncomfortable with the whole subject of homo/bi/sexuality.

[> [> Kinsey scale, other research and general comments -- yez, 13:48:45 11/08/02 Fri

Thanks to those who commented on liking the post.

Re: Kinsey scale --

That's right, I thought I'd read something about that controversy as well. I do think the continuum theory is right, though, and that belief is based on my personal experience as well as what I know of my friends'. So, whatever that's worth...

I don't have time to see if I can find anything online about this -- or to try to find my notes -- but a couple of years ago, I went to a social health conference presentation on outreach efforts and sexually at-risk populations, and the presenter talked about surveys and research being done that indicated that, at least with younger generations today, the way people self- identify and self-report about their sexuality is kind of complex. For example, when asked if they were homo- or bi-sexual, you'd get x number report they were. But when asked if they had ever engaged in homosexual acts, the numbers were surprisingly different. The point was that you can't just target, say, HIV outreach efforts at gay men because there's a lot of people who aren't identifying as gay or bi and who will disqualify themselves from your campaign, even though they may engage in those sexual acts every once in a while. "Gay? Bi? No, not me." Conversely, some younger people *are* self-identifying as gay or bi even though they haven't yet engaged in associated sexual behaviors yet. So this also pointed to more people not just associating their sexuality with actual sexual acts -- avoiding labels.

Just fyi, if my memory can be trusted.

Reminds me, had an interesting conversation with my father once -- he was trying to puzzle everything out about my sexuality, I guess. And he said that when he was young, he was aware of a certain teacher who would trade sex with young men for money and gifts. Now, I don't know if my dad was involved in this (and I didn't ask) but my dad said that he and his friends had this attitude that unless you were the one *giving* a blow job or *taking* anal sex, being involved in something like that had nothing to do with being gay. Anyway, just an interesting anecdote re: attitudes/beliefs about sex and what it means or doesn't mean. Kind of like Clinton, I guess, and his "blow job doesn't equal sex" attitude, which I think it probably pretty common, actually.

yez


Not as silly, but somewhat serious at times take on "Him" Spoilers -- Deb remembers why stopped posting b4. Why is she posting now, 17:09:18 11/06/02 Wed

Allow me to self-reference my post at the very, very bottom of "10 Things I Hate About Him."

But I saw a story here.

First of all, (not having seen any eps before season 4) I ran into the house, turned on the tube, and was getting ready to pounce on the couch. I saw that Spike was moving in with Xander. I was so shocked that I missed the couch, but anyway..

This is what I picked up:

First Spike moved in with Xander, then Dawn and Buffy are talking on the bleachers. Dawn asks Buffy is she loves Spike. She says something that really is quite ambiguous, but she then says she "feels for Spike." -- She is actually feeling emotions for Spike that he cannot feel right now. (His wearing all black tonight made him her shadow, [his closet is as good of a unconscious for Buffy as the basement was.] and he also shadowed Xander in a different way by allowing him to lead.) -- (Ah Angel was the brooder. I miss Spike's witty lingo and acute sardonic insight.) Then she says she doesn't know how she feels about Spike, but she does have feelings. She speaks for Spike here too.

Dawn is then enchanted by the letter jacket and thinks she is feeling this guy's soul, because it feels so real.

Dawn brought up the "attempted rape" and Buffy tells her that he realizes that it was wrong, that's why he left and got a soul. Her attitude while saying this felt like she was saying to herself 'Cool! He went and got a soul just for me.' -- To Dawn and others re. RJ: "He loves me!" -- You know, the brushing off of the matter. (Okay, she's at least apparantly forgiven Spike.) Dawn asks what difference did the fact that Spike has a soul and hurt Buffy, because Xander had a soul and he hurt Anya. (It is quite evident that Buffy has a need to be loved by Spike, and well, he hasn't really expressed his love this season, though he has been considerate of her feelings. 'Does he still love me? Oh God, I don't know how he feels. I don't know how I feel. I only know I feel something.' As my daughter told me, it is that feeling that makes you want to throw up. I concure from my experience. If you feel like throwing up, then something is going on inside that you are not heeding.

In summation: (yeah!) Buffy is telling us that Spike has feelings for her (and vice versa), but he doesn't know what they are so she doesn't either.) William never got beyond that first crush on C. before he was turned, and his relaationship with Dru was romanticized, not true love. (It was that "wild" love that comes after "first" love. Wild love is crazy making.) He's never felt "true" love so he probably doesn't know what he feels.

This is one of the thesis questions of the show. How does the possession of a soul differ from not having one when it comes to love, and what is soul love?

Just the moral of the story please:

Outward appearances such as wearing letter jackets and cool leather dusters, etc. are just masks, and they are enchanting, but it is the soul that makes decisions regarding true love. "No soul" or a "confused" soul can both hurt the people around them, but in the end it is the soul that loves and is loved.

General observations:

Freud said that sometimes a cigar is just a cigar. Well that rocket launcher thingy was not a rocket launcher thingy, which makes the following comedy that much funnier. The look on Spike's face while he's holding that thing and staring at Buffy was a mixture of relief and little bit of fear I think like 'Oh my God. That was a close one!' My daughter was laughing so hard she fell off of the couch during this one.

I also find the fact that she was pointing the think at the principal in the principal's office, which is directly over the Hellmouth, as foreshadowing. (but not in the same manner as with Spike.)

I loved the teamwork of Spike and Xander in mugging the kid for his letter jacket and then running like hell. I don't know why, but I had vision of Batman and Robin running off into the night. I thought the show was funny. Xander could work out a nice "good cop, bad cop" thing with Spike.

The angel thingy with Spike was interesting. Possibly saying that Angel if out of sight is out of mind? Or, like someone said, what does he not want the angel to see? His unworthiness?

The poetry thing feels like foreshadowing of some sort.

Questions: What did Xander say that Spike said when asked if he wanted to get a pizza? Visions of "The Odd Couple" dance in my head.

Okay, what's the hair thing? Is the "waved hair" the new "straight hair"?

[> Re: Not as silly, but somewhat serious at times take on "Him" Spoilers -- Rufus, 17:31:14 11/06/02 Wed

This season is all about revisiting themes of the past, but seeing them through a different perspective, one of being that bit older and maybe wiser. I loved this ep and was killing myself through a good part of it. I've been watching the show since it began and found going back to highschool and seeing that experience for what it is instead of how one felt at the time can be illuminating at the very least.

How many people have had the experience of getting to see a "Golden One" a hero in High School, the perfect looking one, the one with all the breaks....exposed as just being a regular guy or gal. Xander has always felt like a nerd and he found High School a torturous experience, he never felt like he belongs and had been bullied. Now Xander is in a place where he is successful but still unable to see how far he has come. Going to the home of the former "Golden Boy" one who had tormented him, and finding an overweight, underachiever, who once stripped of his "costume" reverts back to just a regular guy, one that is happy being a couch potato. He and his brother never being a bright enough bulb to figure out that it was the "jacket" that earned the adulation and now with that gone he now can be lost in the crowd. I think that mirrors a similar experience many formerly big fish in the High School pond go through when they get out into the real world. In the Real World, the costume may be a factor, but what you actually do makes the difference. Xander is moving ahead and becoming successful, the guy with the crutch of the costume/jacket removed, is just coasting.

Also, why is everyone so surprised that Xander allow